De-construction

The parts make up the whole. Whether this whole is the ultimate reality or a constructed reality, is the question. It loses meaning, is vulnerable to misinterpretation and sometimes ceases to go beyond the acquired meaning.

From my window

10 tips on “How to survive a long distance relationship”

Being in a long distance relationship is as good as being single without availing the advantages of being single. So what does one do, when you are in one?




1. Communicate- In a long distance relationship, it is important you communicate with your boyfriend/girlfriend as often as possible. Keep them updated about your activities, make them feel a part of it. But also remember do not over-communicate. With the perks of web 2.0, social networking, instant messaging can be done at the click of a tab, but remember having someone popping up every now and then may not be always surprising.


2. Make plans together- It is given that you as a couple do not meet often. So make plans for the time you would be together like watch films, play scrabble, cook a meal. There can be a million things that you could do together. This would keep you going till the time you guys are actually with each other. Whether the plans work or no is a different thing, but the wait is made more fun.


3. Spell it out- In a long distance relationship it is not possible for your girlfriend or boyfriend to predict your mood swings, highs and lows. Sometimes coincidences happen, but not always. Express yourself, tell your boyfriend/girlfriend about things that may be bothering you, emote, talk, and seek advice.


4. Give surprises- It is always nice to receive a bunch of flowers or a CD of your favourite artist as a gift. Do small little things to make each other feel special. Even if it is just writing a letter or sending a postcard.


5. Be consistent- The initial few months of a relationship are the best and are sure meant to be treasured. But why not make every moment special? It is obvious that on certain days you would be busy, you might not give each other enough time, but try and compensate for it.


6. Appreciate- If your partner is going out of his/her way to make an effort, appreciate it and most importantly reciprocate. There is nothing worse than no acknowledgement. All of us need a little motivation, it could be this.


7. Listen and not just hear- It is important that when your boyfriend/girlfriend is expressing something, you listen with utmost concentration. You wouldn’t want your girlfriend to go, “Are you even listening to me?”, while your mind is on the Pizza Hut menu card or a football match. Understand what your boyfriend/girlfriend is trying to convey. Do not make stupid remarks, it could be very irritating.


8. Sex talk- This is the most important. It is important you keep the anticipation heightened for the time you are together. Talk about things you want to do, discuss your fantasies (about each other), appreciate each other’s qualities in bed.


9. Enjoy when together- Forget all worries, live in the moment, go with the flow. When you are together, enjoy each other’s company, make the most of the time you have. Those two days away from the routine and being together will never come back. Make it special, worth remembering, till the time you see each other again.


10. Accept the situation- You cannot dismiss the fact that you are in a long distance relationship. Do not regret, do not let your partner feel it is their fault. Stay away from going on a guilt trip, start accepting the situation. The sooner, the better. It sucks, we all know that. But stop cribbing and start acting on the 9 tips above.


PS: PMSing sometimes makes me think better, now that’s something like a self discovery.


(A stupid thought at 4 am in the morning led to this post.)

Leaving Home: a journey closer home

Gone are the days when making a film required a fat producer, extravagant sets , a superstar. It is all boiling down to low budget, real people, real settings, its time for Cinema Verite to go commercial. And the best part is, movie makers are taking the risk, diving straight into the hearts of their audiences and making some pocket money as well.




This Friday (2nd April) releases, Leaving Home: The Life and Music of Indian Ocean. The two hour rockumentary is about this ageing band’s journey that began more than a decade ago. Indian Ocean, rooted deep in Sufi, Indian classical and folk music, saw success with Bandeh. This Hindi rock song, featured in Black Friday and catapulted the band to commercial hit. Youngsters loved them and thus slowly they built a huge fan following by performing across Indian, frequent tours to the US and an album that released more than four years ago.


The film is rightly timed, considering the band is contemplating their next album release soon. After losing Asheem Da, their lead man, Indian Ocean did not waiver or fall apart * Touchwood*. People die, but they leave behind music that keeps resonating for years to come. I am looking forward to the film and hoping that this trend just doesn’t stop here. This may be the moment, for documentary films to make a mark, turn the tables and the talent to get noticed.

Some really old ones

I had to dig through two box full of pictures to find my favourites. Putting some of them here. These are of people I love a lot.



My Dad, my hero


My mum, my best friend, my confidant and the most beautiful woman I know
I don't mention her to many people, because when it comes to her am always short of words.
She is the best thing to have happened to me and I love her a lot

My grandparents (Thatha and Paati)
I have heard stories about him from her, about how brave he was during the wars, about how they survived in Kashmir for years, about how every journey with him was an adventure for her.
My grandma, is from a royal family, but she chose to marry grandpa and live a humble life. She taught kids in school, raised five children and put up with my grandpa's annoying habits. She is a brave woman and even today lives a happy satisfied life. Even if I achieve half of what she has in her life, I would consider it big. Paati, I love you a lot and can't wait to get you home...:)

365

Its been a year already. It feels like yesterday and I have already served a year. Am a year older, a year smarter.     

So much has happened, that there is no vivid memory of a beginning or an end. Its hazy, may be I let it go too soon. 

The best part is I have already predicted the next year, the same rigamarole, the same gossips, the same people, the same senseless, meaningless existence that I have already come to terms with. 

Its like a whirling cyclone that keeps building, to the point that you become an insignificant being stuck in it. I have lost my anchor, and I have my house in the cyclone. 

Will I ever return? Will I get used to the twists and turns, the churning day in and day out, that I will forget my world, the world where I used to belong. 

Post it

Lets not put too many walls around us.

Lets not push people away because they are too close.

Lets not make inhibitions our garb.

Lets not ignore what our heart says,

Lets not obey the mind mindlessly.

Lets not know the destination all the time,

lets not think twice before taking the plunge.

Lets not just survive but breathe.

lets not have judgements, not even one bit

Today, lets just be who we are and love thyself.....

A drunk ode

  

   Dear Beer,

  when I have you near,

  I have no fear 

  Everything is not so clear       

  yet i wanna cheer

(Photo courtesy: Denny L. Laloo)

And the post below led to this...

How do you keep the music playing?
How do you make it last?
How do you keep the song from fading too fast?
How do you lose yourself to someone?
And never lose your ways
How do you not run out of new things to say?
And since we're always changing
How can it be the same?
And tell me how, year after year
You're sure your heart will fall apart
Each time you hear his name
I know the way i feel for you. it's now or never
The more i love, the more that i'm afraid
That in your eyes i may not see forever, forever
If we can be the best of lovers
Yet be the best of friends
If we can try with everyday to make it better as it grows
With any luck, then i suppose, the music never ends
I know the way i feel for you it's now or never!
(how do you keep the music playing?)
The more i love. the more that i'm afraid
(how do you make it last)
That in your eyes i may not see forever, forever
(how do you keep the song from fading, keep the song from fading too fast)
If we can be the best of lovers
Yet be the best of friends
If we can try with everyday to make it better as it grows
With any luck. then i suppose the music never ends

- James Ingram

Radio killed the video star

When 50 girls are fighting over one remote control. When even the wonders of youtube become boring. When all the films on your hard drive have been watched by you a million times, you are even condition to emote by just listening to the sounds (Too much of Pavlov off late).


Comes to my rescue Myopusradio


Though I always keep hoping for faster internet speed. And I am a satisfied girl




R.I.P Gina . You will always be remembered

Newbies

New obsession- Keeping everything around me super clean. Vacuum out every single particle of dust. My body has reached that point, it cannot take dust anymore.

Next purchase- New shoes (Tresmode). Daddy I hope you are reading this :P

New song stuck on my lips- Yeh mera deewanapan hai ....by Susheela Raman (Original by Mukesh)

Next tattoo- on my left foot


New favorite author- Mark Haddon


Next must watch- Inception


New thing on the "to buy when I have a real job" list- Chanel rubber effect Python tote

Loss

Rhythm and music, sounds and sights have always dominated my growing up years. I was put in a music school when I was barely three, I would literally go there every day only to sleep, because every song would be like a lullaby to me. Grandma is a Carnatic classical vocalist. Even at 82 she has a voice that could send you in a deep trance. My mom is a walking talking juke box; forget dad he cannot sing, the reason why I hated nursery rhymes. (I could recite rhymes when I was one and a half year old ;))
In spite of starting my training that early I haven’t been able to learn all that I was supposed to. Blame it on my laidback attitude and lack of patience to learn the craft. Granma thought I could be a good singer, but I never gave myself a chance and it’s turned into a big repentance today.
My fate with classical dance form ended the same way. After spending 11 years matching my steps to the beats, I had to quit mid-way. Even today when I see someone perform on stage, tears roll down my eyes. It reminds me of my failure and how I would never wear that beautiful Saree and the gracious ornaments, how I would never have my palms smeared with Alta and tie those Ghungroos... or wait. May be its still not too late!

Road, Movie- on the move

A filmmakers take on the grandeur of cinema is always a pleasurable watch even if its on those strainingly uncomfortable front row seats. Road, Movie is one such film that you would want to watch in spite of that pain in your neck. The film is not so much about the four main characters but about the art of filmmaking. The most memorable scene remains when Satish Kaushik physically scissors out a scene because he thinks it to be too boring for his local audiences i.e. Benegal's take on editing.

It may be a little slow for Indian sensbilities, we are yet to develop that eye for cinema. It is kind of shameful because even a film like Shree 420 made decades ago tried to put in some logic into our heads. May be it is the thought of looking at films as entertainment that overshadows the real meaning behind it, we call it Popcorn entertainment.

Abhay deol after his portrayal of a jilted lover in Dev D, doesnt deliver much, shoddy dialogues and certain amount of hesitance engulfs his performance. Satish Kaushik is his usual self and new comer Tanishta as a gypsy woman is convincing, its more got to do with her look than her skills.

But in my opinion lets not watch Road, Movie expecting stellar performaces, watch it to be just grateful that we have cinema, the art that touches all of us in some way or the other.

Move on

Curvy is in, lean is out
"at least now he has things to look at"

Why so random?

Its funny how some people think they sound smart by thinking random.. why? The only person you make sense to is you. Get that?

Lets decode randomness

1) People think and write random because they want to make an incognito point
2) Lash out at people they hate
3) Too scared to face reality, thus take the help of fantasy
4) Prove a point without having to go through the pain of being upfront
5) Make someones life miserable because theirs sucks anyways
6) Try to be "know-it-all" whereas the reality is far from this
7) Pretend to be too cool for poor earthlings with little more brains than them
8) Like what he/she likes. Why? Because they need acceptance

so.. this is how it looks

Oh quite an eventful day it has been and continues to be!

Broke a few bones (mine), had a random conversation with a stranger, went to shoot and got shot, heard more rant about self. Wish people grow up and stop acting silly, atleast around me... if I remember right my first post on the blog some four years ago was something to do with jealousy...and it still holds true! Wow, Girls don't like me much.. especially those who think they are too smart for the world to figure but end up like fools more often.

A happy Hundredth (100) to me! Woohoo

Voices in my head screaming out loud, jumping, jumping more!!

ouch!!! The broken hip bone hurts...but what the heck!! I am 100 ! Woohooo





(Since you din't I had to)